A marriage that's too hot to handle



I have found that emotional abuse in a marriage leads to physical illnesses that in turn destroy a woman's life. That therefore equates to the same thing as physical abuse. 
In searching for help in my marriage I approached a godly older woman- a pastor's wife after I was violently raped by my ex-husband just five weeks after undergoing major women's surgery... she sided with my husband.... there was no compassion for the abuse in my marriage.. 
I am so glad that I realised she was biased towards preservation of my marriage as opposed to preservation of myself. I was thrown into the lions den with no thought as to my safety. I now have PTSD... 
I would therefore advise an abused wife-either physical or emotional abuse- to leave for a time until or if the husband submits to church discipline or agrees to marriage counselling and then to approach a reconciliation only after proof of repentance.
It is simply too detrimental to a woman's health to stay in an abusive marriage without any hope of improvement. It is simply too hard to handle...


© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. Malachi 2:14

4 comments:

  1. Amen. And shame shame on that pastor's wife. I work at a police department and I see the results of abuse. There is no excuse for allowing abuse of ANY kind in your home. Thank God you got out.

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    1. Thank you Maria. Apparently I wasn't submissive enough! It was good that I didn't let that destroy my faith... however that marriage lasted another 16 years... far too long now that I look back! Blessings and thanks for commenting, Maria.

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  2. I am so sorry you went through this, Glenys. What a terrible experience. I am sure that sharing it will help others in a similar situation though. Thank you for sharing. I am glad you are now safely out of that marriage.

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    1. April, I wanted to be a pastor to help women in similar circumstances. I gave up Bible College because my pastor at the time said that as a divorced woman, I would not be suitable. So I write about my first marriage to encourage women to leave and not stay too long like I did. I am very happy with Chris who I married 23 years ago. Even so, I now have PTSD. I believe Christian women in abusive marriages are usually not heard... thanks for sharing a cuppas with me today, April!

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Thank you for visiting with me today. I love to hear from you. I may not always be able to reply right away, but I will respond to every comment you leave. Blessings and comfort, Glenys